#TBT: Game Over or Game On?

I’ve decided to start doing Throwback Thursday here at the blog. On Thursdays, I will pick a post from The Bradford Blog archives to share with you. Hope you enjoy!

At first glance, the shirts I’ve seen guys wear with a bride and a groom standing above the words “Game Over” is kinda cute. It’s a clever spin “marrying” video games with wedding days. But as I’ve thought about it, I have a big time issue with the attitude behind the shirt. Marriage is a wonderfully amazing gift, but far too many guys see it as the end of their freedom or their manhood. But I say it takes a real man to actually get married, have a family, and love and lead them properly. To me, it’s “Game On”.

I was married for eleven years before getting divorced. As hard as that divorce was, I am excited about getting married again. I am also a dad of four incredible kids and love every bit of it. My life is more complete, not limited. My freedom has been expanded, but in ways that I would have never dreamed of. It’s because I was hardwired for relationships, for love, for fatherhood, and for pursuing a godly woman and loving her for the rest of my days. I believe all men have been designed the same way. Yes, some receive a unique life call to be single, but I say that’s the exception and not the rule. (Side note: a life call to be single doesn’t mean a life of one night stands, no responsibility, and playing video games all the time.)

Speaking of video games…let’s talk about grown men and video games. I like video games. But I sincerely believe that grown men have better things to do with their time than sit in front of Call of Duty for hours upon hours or glued to their smartphones playing the latest craze game. I realize this won’t be a popular opinion with many in our world today, but I really don’t care. Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy playing video games with my kids, but that’s because it’s an opportunity to spend time with them. We laugh and talk trash and conquer bad guys together. But I also try to teach and instill in my kids that there is more to life than video games. It’s a man’s job to conquer the battles of the real world, such as working hard and supporting his family, loving his wife and honoring her above all others, building character in and memories with his kids, and being a positive force in society. Ok…rant over.

Guys. Your wife is not an object that you give attention to whenever it’s convenient or good for you. She shouldn’t have to compete for your attention or your affection, but should be the most important person in the world. Your kids are not nuisances that take away from what you’d rather be doing. Marriage and family are not a set of chains put around your neck and arms, but a new journey to embark on that is beyond your wildest dreams.

My kids have been watching American Ninja Warrior a lot lately. It’s a fun show to watch. I’m amazed at the focus these athletes maintain as they train and compete on a physically grueling course. They have to be on their game because one mistake means game over. In a similar fashion, we have to maintain our focus on our marriages and relationships because you never know when the game will end. So for me, when I say “I do” again, it will be Game On because I don’t want another Game Over.