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This is an excerpt from my upcoming book Resole, which will release as an ebook on October 18:
One reason we tend to hide behind a mask is because we live in a fallen world. Sin has corrupted God’s design and now we are surrounded by people full of a gamut of self-issues (e.g., selfishness, fear, pride, greed, hate, lust, etc.). How is it even possible to trust broken people?
Another contributor is it can be scary to be real with ourselves. Can you take your mask off and look at yourself in the mirror? I cannot think of anything more terrifying at times than taking an honest inward look and seeing how broken we are. To avoid looking inward, we look for distractions, things to occupy our attention so we don’t have to gaze upon who we really are. If it’s so hard to be vulnerable with ourselves, why would we even want to be vulnerable with others? After all, hurt people hurt people. Right?
Think about it this way. When you and I lock up the darkness in our hearts, it grows. As it grows, hope is suffocated to the point of dying. A hopeless life is tragedy, in my opinion, because hope is what fuels passion and purpose. The only way to find hope again in our lives is to disperse the darkness by shining light upon it.
The best way to shine light into the dark places of your soul is to let others in. But how? How do we overcome hopelessness and find the courage to take off the mask? I’ve found it starts with God. If you can’t trust God with your true self, you’ll never be able to trust others. Once you learn to let Him navigate the depths of your jacked-up heart, you will discover a desire and a need to share your struggles with others.
I have a confession. I’m really good at miscommunication. It’s an art form actually, something I’ve practiced quite a bit over the years. No matter how clear I think I’ve made a message, I’m often reminded how easily it can get lost in translation somewhere along the line. Can you relate? Continue reading “The power of miscommunication”
No one is like you. You’re one of a kind. You are the only person with the unique mix of personality, experiences, education, physical appearance, and talents contained inside the package of you. You are the only you. Continue reading “Did you know you’re unique?”
It was a call I was expecting and not expecting all at the same time. As I listened to my dad’s voice tell me my grandmother had passed away, I was immediately struck with sorrow. My eyes filled with tears and my voice tightened up. I had nothing to say. The world had lost a beautiful soul. Continue reading “How to grieve well”
Here’s a powerful story of giving I wanted to share with you. It comes from Anne Lamott’s book Bird by Bird and illustrates the power of being selfless.
An eight-year-old boy had a younger sister who was dying of leukemia, and he was told that without a blood transfusion she would die. His parents explained to him that his blood was probably compatible with hers, and if so, he could be the blood donor. They asked him if they could test his blood. He said sure. So they did and it was a good match. Then they asked if he would give his sister a pint of blood, that it could be her only chance of living. He said he would have to think about it overnight. Continue reading “How soon until I start to die?”
It was about two weeks ago that we were morning the horrific shooting’s at the AME Church in Charleston South Carolina. Today, for some reason, the memory seems like months ago. Within a week’s time, we saw so much happen in our country. Debates and arguments over the Confederate flag sparked up all over the place. Obamacare was upheld by the Supreme Court. And then, in another Supreme Court ruling, same-sex marriage was made the law of the land. Yes, a lot has happened since the tragedy in Charleston. But how easily we forget to value human life. Continue reading “Charleston: How easily we forget”